Why is change so hard?

Nothing is permanent except change

There is nothing permanent except change- yet we struggle with change and transitions just the same. Why is change so hard?

We happen to like familiarity and find comfort in it. Breaking away from familiar patterns, places, and people is difficult. Even positive change can be difficult- starting college, starting a much-desired job, moving into your dream home, or the birth of your child. All of these are likely positive life changes, ones that  you had hoped and wished for. Yet these are some of the more stressful times in life.

 Even positive change- like having a baby can be difficult

It can be even harder when life changes in ways that are completely beyond your control and you are taken by surprise. Unfortunate events like losing loved ones, financial losses, missed work opportunities, and academic setbacks happen and lead to some very challenging times.

Change, good or bad, is often disorienting and unsettling. Living through change and transition can elicit strong emotions. It helps to prepare for it and anticipate challenges. Expect to feel anxious and blue at times when going through a transition. Prioritize taking care of yourself while balancing other needs. Be open to asking for help. Even though transitions are challenging times, they bring great opportunities for new beginnings.

If you are struggling to cope in a time of transition it may be beneficial to seek professional help.

-“The best thing one can do when it's raining is to let it rain."

“The best thing one can do when it's raining is to let it rain."

Stay healthy and live well.

Dr. Sayanti Bhattacharya MD, MS